From the parents:

Why won’t they accept me as a parent ?
Why can’t I make a difference ?
Why do I always come last ?
Why do the kids treat me this way ?
Why is my spouse controlled by guilt ?
Why does it feel like the fun is gone ?
Why can’t we be more like the ‘Brady Bunch’ ?

From the Stepchildren:

Who is this new person ?
My family is not together because of you !
You’re not my real parent !
You are not the ‘boss of me’ !
I can’t stop comparing you with my biological parent !
I can’t let myself be nice to you !
I want to live with my other parent !